As mums we all struggle with one thing or another. Even if we have the most beautiful home, are financially well off, or have well behaved children, there will be something in our mum-life that challenges us. It could be keeping the house tidy, cooking heathy meals, keeping our children in check or keeping on top of our finances. What is your mummy struggle?
As a mum striving to keep the Gospel central to how I raise my children, there are certain struggles I face all too often. Here are my top 5….(I do have more). The struggle is REAL! *Please note, they are in no particular order *
1. Having quiet time to read and study my bible.
Being a mummy to 3 little ones aged 4, 2, and 1 years old, it can be a challenge to read my Word, let alone study it. My baby is an early riser waking up anywhere between 5 and 5.30am, with my toddler and preschooler waking up between 6.30am and 7am. Getting up early to have my quiet time with the Lord doesn’t happen very often but in the next few weeks I will write about how I manage to read God’s Word in the midst of having early rising young children and homeschooling.
2. Staying Gospel Centered
My goal is to let the Gospel drive everything I do as a mother, however when the pressure is on; say for example we’re running late for an appointment, the children are fighting or ignoring every instruction I give them, I can forget the good news and joy of the Gospel and become a snappy, irritated mummy. In those moments I take my eyes of Christ and place them on myself, my feelings, my ‘inconveniences’ and ‘setbacks’ and makes me not very Gospel Centered at all.
3. Being consistent in disciplining my children.
Disciplining children can get weary and tiring and there are days when it feels like that is all I do. The constant talking, combined with them not listening or answering me back can get frustrating and at times seems pointless as there seems to be no change in their behaviour. There are times when I throw my hands up in the air in defeat and give up. Thankfully, God being the gracious God that He is, does not allow me to wallow in this place for too long and I get right back on it.
4. Mummy Guilt/not feeling good enough.
The amount of things I can feel mummy guilt over is ridiculous. It ranges from snapping at my children, not sending enough quality time with each child, not being a good Christian example or letting them have too much screen time, usually because I want a break. Mummy guilt can creep in multiple times a day where I feel I’m not good enough to be a mum to one child, let alone 5. One thing I have come to realise is that God did not bless me with 5 children for anything good that I have done or because I’m so great with children. It is simply so that He can be glorified. I totally realise and recognise that I will never be enough for my children and this is the place where God wants me to be. Find out how this can be in my up and coming blog.
5. Comparing myself to other mums
All too often I compare myself to other mums out there, be it ones I know personally, ones I see in the supermarket who seem to have it all together or ones I see online/ social media, and of course they are always doing a better job than me…or so I think. This can set my day on a downward spiral, questioning God as to why I am the way I am and why my life is the way it is, which of course negatively impacts how I am around and with my children. It’s terrible, not to mention sinful, that I would question my Maker as to the life He has blessed me with.
These are just a few of my struggles. Others include, getting the family to sit around the table to eat dinner or breakfast in peace, getting the little ones ready for bed, and homeschooling, to name a few more. These times are not always a struggle but I would say a lot of the time they are, or can be. Thankfully I am learning how to overcome them by Gods grace and in the up and coming weeks I will be sharing how I manage these struggles and get through those challenging moments where all I want to do is shout, yell or lash out.
But this is not just about me, what do you struggle with as a mum? What challenge do you face daily or frequently and how do you overcome it? Do you overcome them? I know it’s not easy mummy.
Please do feel free to comment and share. I would love to hear from you.
And remember, because you are a mum, you are qualified.
Until next time
Yours in Christ